Pressure to conceive

Is the pressure of trying to conceive a baby taking its toll on your relationship?

Many couples find ovulation a very stressful time of the month.

For the female she is anxiously waiting for the first signs that she is going to ovulate and is desperate to get together with her partner at this time.

While he might find his partners additional interest in sex fun for a month or two ... it can soon take its toll.

Many males find the pressure to perform at ovulation very difficult and this can put a lot of strain on a couples relationship.
Some males suffer from anticipatory anxiety and just can not perform under pressure. They have difficulty getting or maintaining an erection. Others complain that they feel that they are being used ... even though they both would desperately love to conceive.

On top of this there is the pressure from parents, in-laws, family, friends and colleagues. "It's about time you started a family!" " We want grand kids before we get too old!" and so on!
You have heard it all before.

Trying to conceive can be an emotional roller-coaster! Up one day and down the next.
Ovulation brings with it great hope ... whereas the next menstrual period brings great devastation!!



Well...what can be done?

Firstly... be up front with each other and with family & friends. People are really just interested in your lives and they do mean well. If you mention that you are trying, seeing someone about it and are doing all that you can ...they are likely to support you and not bring it up every time they see you!!

As a couple... it is important to talk about how you are feeling about conceiving.

• Discuss ways that you can make things better.
• Understand if your partner can't perform. There is always next month.... yes, it may not help for this months ovulation but it may save your relationship.
  
• If the pressure is too much ... then simply take a month off and just enjoy each others company.
• Try to add some spark back into your relationship... go out for a romantic dinner, light the candles, put on some romantic music, go away for a weekend, leave chocolates on her/his pillow, show each other that you care.

Also...take time to pamper yourselves.
Get your hair or nails done, have a massage, go to the gym, start a hobby, learn to relax and lastly ... just make an effort to enjoy the fertility journey together.

Best wishes for this month
Vanessa